Mother's Day? But It’s Not Mum’s Weekend?
Mother’s Day can be a celebration for some, or heartache for others. Sadly, days to celebrate time with family can become tough to organise, with family often being pulled in different directions to accommodate different wishes.
Mother's Day is one example where plans can become complicated, difficult, and even upsetting if you are separated or divorced from the child's father.
Reaching An Agreement
It may well be that an agreement has been made to split the child contact on specified days of the week, and Mother's Day simply doesn't fall on this weekend.
Speaking to the child's father will certainly be a good place to start. Being open and honest about your wishes to spend this day with the child can go a long way. It’s also very important to give plenty of notice when asking if you could see the child. It can be easy to forget about Mother's Day until the week before, making a note in the calender can help remind you of this well in advance.
You may also be able to reach an agreement with the father whereby you are each allowed contact with the child on Mother's and Father's Days respectively. Or you perhaps forgo another day that you have with the child in exchange for Mother’s Day.
Missing Out On Handmade Cards?
Mother’s Day can also be upsetting because the gift from your child would usually have been prepared with help from the father. Divorce Coach, Sara Divison says, "you can flip this situation to your advantage and go out and buy your own Mother’s Day gift for yourself. If your child is old enough they can wrap it up for you on your chosen celebration day. It’s a perfect solution as you are guaranteed to like your gift!"
With young children especially, it can be upsetting to miss out on those handwritten cards. You may be able to reach an agreement here with the father, whereby he will help the child with the Mother’s Day preparation in exchange for your doing the same come Father's Day.
Making It Mum’s Weekend
Try not to worry too much if you are unable to reach an agreement to see your child on Mother’s Day. There are some ways around this that can still make sure you can spend a special day with your child.
Kate Donohue Jones, a Family Law solicitor
who works with clients in relation to child contact
, offers her expert opinion, "Mother’s Day can be an upsetting time for mothers who do not have access to their child on that day. I would recommend rescheduling Mother’s Day for another day. This means you can still spend the quality time with your child and have your own special day together."