Is This Domestic Abuse?
Many people, including victims are still unaware of what is considered to be domestic violence
. Often, we are only concerned with the physical abuse because that is what we see. However, the term domestic abuse consists of many different kinds of abuse including physical, mental and emotional
Not knowing the different types often leads to people not being aware
that they themselves or someone close to them is suffering from domestic abuse.
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic abuse occurs between adults who have been or had been intimate partners or family members
. Some of the most common signs of abuse are:
- Physical abuse
- Threatening behaviour
- Sexual abuse
- Emotional abuse
- Psychological intimidation
- Financial restraints
Supporting victims of abuse who are aged 16-17 years old
The current Home Office definition does not include domestic abuse that occurs against 16 or 17 year olds
but they do intend to include them in the near future. They recognise that an increasing amount of teenagers are at risk of domestic abuse.
Don't forget controlling or coercive behaviours
Controlling and coercive behaviour is also set to be included in the definition. Controlling behaviour is when a person is isolated from their usual network of support, such as friends and family and made to be subordinate to their abuser in the process
. Also, coercive behaviour is used to harm, punish or frighten the victim
All of these patterns of behaviour are counted as abuse and if this is happening to you, help is out there.
Who Is Affected By Domestic Violence?
Domestic abuse often occurs over time which may be why it is sometimes overlooked by the person being abused
It's not just Women who suffer
Both men and women are affected by domestic abuse, at least 1 in 4 women
are beaten, coerced into sex or abused by an intimate partner in their lifetime. This was highlighted by Channel 4 News recently where a woman who was a victim of domestic abuse waived her anonymity to share her story
It's good to talk
Research has shown that 63% of men never tell anyone about the most serious incident
of abuse that they have suffered, although 1 in 6 men are victims of domestic abuse and violence
. Some men are unaware that what they endure is domestic abuse and when they do speak out, they feel ashamed. It is these attitudes in society that need changing
Often, if the abuse is happening in a family situation the children will also be affected
. Even if the shouting and arguing is in a different room, children are often aware of the situation.
Unknowingly to some, employers are also affected by domestic abuse. 53% of those who suffer from domestic abuse are absent from work at least 3 days a month
, whilst 56% arrive late at least 5 times a month
. Unfortunately, not only are victims of domestic abuse targeted in the home, but they are also targeted at work. Almost 75% receive abusive texts, calls and emails
whilst at work, with some abusive partners even showing up at the workplace
I Have Suffered Domestic Abuse – Where Can I Find Help?
The Corporate Alliance Against Domestic Violence (CAADV)
is a government-backed initiative that is currently working with employers to help employees
that may be suffering from domestic violence.
There is a lot the law can do to protect victims of domestic violence
whether they are men, women or children. A solicitor can help you to get a prosecution against your abuser
or an injunction. If there are children involved, we can also help you to sort out residence and contact orders.