I want to see my Kids - How do I get Access?
What are my rights?
Did you know that when parents separate, less than one in ten go
to the family courts to help make decisions about contact arrangements for their
And yet contact with children after a split can be one of the most
bitterly argued over issues – they are, after all, our most treasured
possessions with both parents wanting their ‘share’.
The Children Act 1989 is there to give paramount consideration
to the welfare of the child/ren. So if you can’t agree on contact
arrangements amicably as parents, there are steps you can take – but
beware, the legal process can be lengthy and distressing for all
The first step is to try mediation to see if a neutral third party
can help you to agree the 'terms and conditions' of contact with your children
after a split.
Child Contact – Common Access Issues
Issues that often crop up are:
- How often you can have contact with your children – or are willing to allow – and
- Whether unsupervised visits and/or overnight stays can be agreed upon.
But remember, under the Children Act it is not your contact with your children that
is most important – it is what’s best for your kids.
That’s why going to court should always be a last resort, but for many is still
the only way to gain contact with their children, or prevent a
violent or abusive ex-partner from having contact with the children.
Help with access to my Child(ren)
If you are seeking contact with your child after a separation
you can gain a contact order from the courts setting out your ‘rights’
to see your children and under what circumstances.
Removing access rights to a Child
If you are trying to prevent an ex-partner having contact with
your children, perhaps because of welfare concerns, you can mount a legal opposition
to the granting of any contact order.
Still having Child Contact Problems?
If you already have a contact order yet your ex-partner is still making it very
difficult for you to have contact with your children, you can ask
a solicitor or mediator to help you enforce the contact order.
Emma Pearmaine is head of family law at Simpson Millar LLP and she handles a mixture of financial proceedings, private children and domestic violence matters. She is described as "approachable, experienced and conscientious" and she impresses clients by "taking the initiative to explore aspects of a seemingly impossible situation."
Chambers & Partners UK 2014
Our Family Law Team are here for you
Whichever side of the situation you’re on – trying to gain or trying to prevent/restrict
contact – it’s best to stay calm, don’t do, say or write things
you’ll regret later – nothing on social networking sites, no late night
phone calls, no arguments at handovers – just speak to a
family law specialist solicitor as soon as possible to find the best solution.
Remember, our Family Law
Team are on your side and we’ll do what’s best for you and your kids
as quickly, cost-effectively and efficiently as possible.
Why not check out our fixed fees and other funding services
Get in touch for open, honest legal advice on contact with your children.
Want to see a Family Lawyer out of Working Hours
We have family ourselves and know just how hectic family lives can get and taking time out during the working day can be hard so we offer face-to-face or telephone appointments on Thursday evenings and Saturday mornings:
By Appointment Only
- Thursday Evenings from 5pm - 7pm
- Saturday Mornings from 9am - 12 noon
- Please make sure you book your appointment in advance regardless of whether it is by telephone or face to face
To book either:
Child Access and Regular Contact - Need Legal Advice?
Contact our Child Contact Solicitors now to discuss how we can
help you by completing our, no obligation,
online enquiry form and we will call you back or you can call us directly
on freephone: 0808 129 3320.
Frequently Asked Questions - Child Arrangement Orders